Thursday, October 2 and Friday, October 3
They are not dead—and neither are their stories. Their memory offers a mirror—and a map—for the living. With every grave I study, I toast those who came before us. As a literature professor and cemetery historian, my work combines my love of words and the stories of those from the past. Welcome! -Sharon Pajka
Thursday, October 2 and Friday, October 3
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Moonrise over the James River, Hollywood Cemetery, Richmond, Virginia |
While that might be true for some, my summer has looked very different. The weeks leading up to the fall semester have been some of my busiest and most rewarding. This summer I have spent my time working and as a volunteer where I connect with my community, and push creative projects forward, work that fuels both my writing and my teaching.
This past weekend was a perfect snapshot of my summer. On Saturday morning, I had a book signing at the Richmond Public Library. The turnout was incredible, and I was reminded once again that my best-selling venues happen to be two places steeped in history and meaning: the library and the cemetery. Both are spaces where stories are preserved, just in different ways.
After signing books, catching up with friends, and meeting new readers, I grabbed lunch with a friend before preparing for my evening Full Moon cemetery tour. This was no ordinary night. We gathered under the Sturgeon Moon in Aquarius, an air sign that speaks to communication, shared visions, and building bridges between past and future. I always try to start each Full Moon tour with a fresh perspective, and this time I even threw in a dad joke which, I must say, landed surprisingly well. It was a reel-y good joke!
We had around 65 attendees that night. Over the course of the three Full Moon tours I have led this summer, we have raised 2,875 dollars for the Friends of Hollywood Cemetery. That money goes directly toward preserving this historic site and ensuring that its stories and beauty remain for generations to come.After the tour, a few new friends invited me out to a diner. I said yes. That is not my usual post-event routine since I am often home well before midnight, but this time I stayed out until 1 a.m. and it was worth every minute. The good conversations, laughter, and sense of connection cannot be scheduled into a calendar. Okay, it can, and I used to have a spontaneity sticker for my planner, but you know what I mean.
On Sunday, I ventured into new territory with my first visit to the Oddities and Curiosities Expo. I had never attended before since taxidermy has never been my thing, as I like my goth a little less literal, but I am so glad I went. The creativity on display was inspiring, and I left with my hands full of art.
Every tour I lead, every conversation I have, and every new experience I step into adds something to my toolkit as an educator. History comes alive when you have walked the ground where it happened. Storytelling deepens when you have stood under the moonlight sharing it with others. Creativity expands when you are open to unexpected inspiration.
For me, summer is not downtime. It is an investment in the work I will be doing all year long. When the semester begins, I will bring these experiences, stories, and renewed energy into my classroom. My students do not just get lectures, they get a richer and more connected view of the world because I have been out there engaging with it.
So yes, the sun is shining, and somewhere in a cemetery, there is a lounge chair with my name on it. For now, I am busy, and I would not have it any other way.
Armed with paint-by-number kits featuring ghostly cemetery scenes (because of course we are going to paint ghosts in a cemetery), we settled in. The breeze was soft and the company was steady. Sometimes we talked, sometimes we let the cemetery do the talking.
There were mild grievances, such as Color #7 being questionable at best, and Colors #8 and #9 may have had identity crises, but even our complaints felt like part of the ritual. We spent the afternoon haunting the place, slowly bringing spectral forms to life with every careful brushstroke.It was my book release day, and oddly, perfectly, it felt like my own kind of release too. A day painted with laughter, ghosts, and Babushkas just the way I needed.
I’ve been a fangirl of Loren Rhoads for years, long before I could call her a friend. Her writing, her insight, and her fearless curiosity made me feel seen. She showed me that it’s okay, even beautiful, to explore cemeteries not just for research, but for recreation and reflection.
Loren is truly the queen of cemetery travel. She runs CemeteryTravel.com, an incredible resource and community hub for taphophiles, historians, travelers, and the merely curious. And now, she’s back with a brand-new book! Still Wish You Were Here: More Adventures in Cemetery Travel
This new memoir collects 35 essays from Loren’s journeys through more than 50 burial grounds worldwide from California’s Gold Country to the streets of Singapore, Tokyo, Rome, and beyond. Fifteen of these stories are brand new and exclusive to this book!Whether she’s tracking down the graves of cultural icons, getting wonderfully lost in foreign churchyards, or meditating on mortality, Loren’s stories are vivid, thoughtful, and deeply inspiring.
Kickstarter is live! and runs until August 8, 2025
https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/lorenrhoads/still-wish-you-were-here-more-adventures-in-cemetery-travel
If cemeteries call to you the way they do to me, if you’ve ever wandered through one feeling connected, curious, or just at peace, this is the book to support.
Thank you, Loren, for making this strange and sacred form of travel feel like home.
I made my way to one of the overlooks perched above the James River, where the sound of water and the steady hum of cicadas offered a loud, living backdrop. It was one of those perfect early summer mornings, humid but not too hot, buzzing with life, and full of stories waiting to be discovered. There were some fallen limbs and leaves from last night’s storms, and the grass was heavy with morning dew that soaked through my shoes as I walked. I didn't mind, though.
After journaling, I wandered into some parts of the cemetery that I rarely make time to explore when I'm giving guided tours. There’s something so different about visiting a place without a plan, just letting the place guide your way.This morning, they led me to the Crenshaw plot not far from President’s Circle, where I caught a delicate and distinct fragrance on the breeze: the Musk Rose, or Rosa moschata. This particular rose is something special. Once believed to be extinct, the Musk Rose was rediscovered right here in the Crenshaw plot some years ago. Since then, it’s been found in other locations, all tied to the same family. Thanks to the foresight of folks like Connie at Hartwood Roses, cuttings were taken, and the rose now grows in nurseries and gardens, safe from vanishing again. You can read more about its journey on her blog: hartwoodroses.blogspot.com.
This morning, the bush held only two blooms. This rose bush is unique for having two different types of flowers. Apparently, one form is a mutation of the other. It’s a rare and lovely thing to see in person (but mostly to smell!), and even more special knowing its story.
As I was getting ready to head out, I ran into two women walking through the cemetery, sisters with one visiting from Savannah, Georgia. Naturally, the conversation turned to cemeteries. We chatted all things Savannah: Bonaventure Cemetery, the infamous Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil, and the meandering paths of Colonial Park that cut through the city. We even touched on Laurel Grove Cemetery, the final resting place of Juliette Gordon Low, the founder of the Girl Scouts. I love Savannah cemeteries, but you just cannot beat the breeze of the river, which helps keep those pesky gnats away. I bought a mesh head net for the next time I visit Savannah.
I gave the sisters a quick impromptu tour of Presidents Circle and pointed out John Tyler and James Monroe, the Lloyd family plot (What happened to Frank? If you are familiar with the grave, you know what I'm talking about), and, of course, I had to introduce them to the Musk Rose before parting ways.There’s something incredibly grounding about mornings like this, feet wet with dew, cicadas singing, unexpected conversations blooming among the graves. History isn’t just in books or plaques; it’s in the plants, the stones, the people you meet, and the stories you pass along.
And sometimes, it starts with a cup of coffee and a slight change in your morning routine.
For those who couldn't get out to the cemetery this morning, here's a short video of part of my morning stroll.
This morning, I read "The modern taboo that Americans just can’t seem to break," Sara Youngblood Gregory’s timely piece in Vox on the persistent silence around death in American culture. It’s a moving exploration of how, despite our thoughts often turning to mortality, we struggle to give voice to our grief, our fears, and our hopes about what comes after. From families that sidestep the subject altogether to a culture shaped by euphemism and for-profit deathcare, the result is clear: we are left ill-equipped to process loss or live fully in its shadow.Black Beauty rosebud currently blooming
That’s why I’m offering a new six-week course this fall through the Transformative Language Arts Network: “Writing the Dead.” This course is not about resolving the mysteries of mortality. It’s about embracing them openly and together.
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Black Beauty rose from my garden |
Over six weeks, we’ll gather to explore death, grief, and remembrance through creative writing, visual art, and dialogue. We’ll read short texts, examine art, and create our own responses to profound questions. Writing letters to the dead, crafting rituals of remembrance, and sharing our stories will become tools for deep inquiry, healing, and transformation.
As the Vox article makes clear, most Americans think about death regularly, but only a third ever talk about it. This course offers a space to break that silence. Not in isolation, but in community.
Together, we will:Explore cultural and personal narratives around death and dying.
Use writing to process grief and affirm connection.
Learn from traditions that treat death as an integral part of life—not a forbidden subject.
Approach our creative practice not as escape, but as a meaningful confrontation.
If you’re curious, if you’re grieving, if you’ve ever whispered to a loved one who’s no longer here, or wished you could, this course is for you. Let’s step into the conversation that matters most, and discover how writing can become a living dialogue between what’s lost and what remains.
“Writing the Dead” begins this fall through TLAN. Join us—and let’s talk about what no one talks about.
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Covington Virginian, July 2, 1930. |
I’ll have copies of:
While Richmond welcomes the wonderfully weird at the Oddities & Curiosities Expo that weekend, I’ll be just a few blocks away offering a literary detour for those who love history, mystery, and the macabre. The Richmond Public Library is committed to supporting local writers, providing a relaxed setting for readers to discover new voices.
Stop by, browse, chat, and grab a signed copy—I’d love to see you there! 🖋️📚
Today's fun surprise was receiving post cards for my forthcoming book! Thanks Arcadia Publishing
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image description: a box with book release cards for Haunted Virginia Cemeteries by Sharon Pajka. The cards include the image of the book cover-- a statue with a large moon and the book title. The back of the card reads "An eerie din provides the soundtrack at Arlington Cemetery, while the gauzy visage of a lady in red flits among heroes’ gravestones. Civil War soldiers meet in perpetual conflict at Mount Hebron Cemetery, and Thomas Jefferson’s restive spirit makes itself known at Monticello. From the ghost that haunted Hollywood Cemetery for months after the Capitol disaster in 1870 to multiple presidential tombs throughout the state where visitors routinely catch a chill, souls find eternal rest to be a fleeting notion in Virginia. Join author Sharon Pajka on a spine-tingling journey of haunted cemeteries throughout the Old Dominion."Even with the steady rain, one dedicated participant showed up, notepad in hand. We moved our chairs beneath the shelter of Palmer Chapel, a beautiful spot overlooking the James River. From there, we could see two bald eagles perched on the large rocks in the middle of the river. I wished for binoculars—my phone’s zoom wasn’t enough to fully capture the moment—but their presence was unmistakable and grounding.
As we sat with the sound of rain and river, she spoke about music that moves her, the kind of songs that stay with you like old friends.After the session, we walked together to find the grave of someone she knew.
On our way back, we paused in front of a headstone inscribed with the words:
"Going home, going homeBy the waterside I will rest my bonesListen to the river sing sweet songsto rock my soul."
The lyrics were perfectly suited for the place. What poem was this? I wasn't familiar.
I looked it up when I got home and smiled—lyrics from Brokedown Palace by the Grateful Dead. It felt like everything had come together in quiet harmony: the eagles, the river, the rain, the music, and memory.
The poem this morning wasn’t just something we wrote—it was something we witnessed.
Sometimes, poetry finds us when we least expect it. It rises in the rhythm of conversation, in shared silence, or on the wings of birds sitting by the water. Sometimes, it’s carved in stone, waiting for someone to pause long enough to read it. And sometimes, it’s all of these things at once.
My 51st YearAfter the crest of half a century,Through fog and flame, the spare seasons, the scattered joys,My mother’s silence now a constant hum,My father yearning to breathe free— almost eighty-seven, gathering the light like bread, breaking it.A new post— in halls once proud with purpose,Now flickering, ivy fading, gasping in the marble—Academia, fallen cold and dying? Or maybe just unvalued,Scorned by those who forget who first opened the page for them.The world at war again, though not always declared —the homeless refused, children buried, cities razed—the names change,but death is always the same.And on Flag Day we’re toldto raise banners for a fool in a suit,those clapping their own backs whilethe hungry, tempest-tost, are hushed.Yet still — I lift my lamp beside the coffin door, walking —through campus corridors, past empty chairs,through streets that forget themselves,past memorials that call only in whispers.I reflect still. I write still.Reporting in — not to salute, but to stand,and not in uniform,but with pen and pulse,that glows with world-wide welcome.
This year’s event was on Sunday, May 25, 2025, and as always, Connie’s garden was pure magic. I still can’t believe we have been friends for ten years now. We first connected through our blogs back in 2015, then became social media friends, and cemetery adventurers together. I've attended the Hollywood Cemetery Rose Days that she led. We attended cemetery picnics together, and I've been on a few of her rose rescue missions. She’s a friend and one of the best advocates for preserving historic roses that I know.
Connie also introduced me to Anne Spencer’s garden in Lynchburg years ago, and that visit helped me see gardens not just as pretty places, but as living archives of memory and meaning.
After soaking up all the beauty in the garden, I made a stop at Fredericksburg Cemetery to visit the graves of novelist Helen Gordon Beale and her mother, diarist Jane Howison Beale. Sadly, that visit came with a heavy heart. Earlier this month, there was a major vandalism incident at the cemetery—over 15 gravestones were toppled or damaged, including markers belonging to former mayors and others with stunning religious symbolism. Repair costs are estimated at more than $20,000—a big ask for the small non-profit that maintains the space.If this kind of thing speaks to your heart, I highly recommend following Connie on Instagram @hartwoodroses to catch next year’s Open Garden Day (and enjoy some seriously gorgeous rose content in the meantime). She’s always sharing updates, and trust me—you’ll want to mark your calendar when the time comes.
Until then, I’ll be tending my little patch of rescued roses and feeling grateful for this community of caretakers, gardeners, and friends.